Musts for Marriage Part II
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Agreement  As with core values a couple must agree on several topics.  I will touch lightly on a few here.

Children.  Often couples disagree on child raising standards. Whether discipline, education, or instilling values, a husband and wife should discuss and agree on these important topics. When spouses disagree, a contest erupts throwing the child in the middle while pitting parents against each other.  Talk about the values you desire to instill in your children, discipline, when and how to minister it.

Money.  Are you money opposites?  Discussing saving, spending, and planning can be daunting; but without discussion and agreement, the disparities will eventually bite you.  If money talk is tough, read an exciting book like Automatic Millionaire to get you on the same page.  Then you can set doable goals and reach for them as a team. 

Division of Labor.  Talk about the housework, divvy out chores according to who likes doing what and balance the remainder.  This is an area where expectations often stir strife.  She expects him to do certain chores, while he figures he has done his duty. Unmet expectations can cause conflict unless they are exposed and understood - a must.

Synchronization  Are you synchronized?  When meals, going to bed, recreation, and the like fall on different schedules, the delicate links between husband and wife wither.  When you hit a bump in the road, the relationship fails to handle the jolt.  Moving together as much as possible creates a life rhythm that strengthens the delicate bonds of marriage.  See how much you can synchronize your activities, especially routines like meals, to strengthen your relationship.