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Six Marriage Myths

Two Coaching Levels

The first level deals with day to day interaction like housekeeping or communication.  We uncover negative patterns and provide tools to create peace.  Then we look deeper.

The second level uncovers deeper issues. Most couples assume they argue about the circumstance, "You forgot to call!" but they are reacting to underlying issues dragged to the surface by the circumstances.

Here are examples of deeper issues: rejection, respect, trust, jealousy, insecurity, anger, criticism, fear, and feeling unheard. When these issues get triggered by circumstances like the missed phone call, they surface and cause a fuss.  When you deal with the issues they no longer fuel frustration.

In the above example Alana talked too much due rejection and Arden recoiled due to criticism.  Focusing on their issues calmed troubled waters.

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